Letting Go: A triple-Perspective Newsletter
“Just let go.”
“Don’t worry about anything.”
“The key to shifting is letting go.”
How many times have you heard that as a shifter and immediately rolled your eyes?
“Let go,” seems to be a common phrase within the shifting community that has earned a lot of scoffs, eyerolls, and complaints. But the one thing about this phrase is that it isn’t necessarily wrong, and that this might just be the key to shifting. However, it’s simply one of the common phrases that will have you ripping your script into shreds and screaming into your s/o-scented pillow. So, let’s try to dissect what it means and how “letting go” can help you shift.
What does it mean to let go?
TJ: “It all boils down to humanizing a reality. Let go of your expectations, let go of the outcome, and let go of your control.”
Kayleen: “Sometimes we have to let the universe do things for us. If one thing happens that you don’t like, that’s okay! When you go back to your OR you can script that out. But even then, you don’t have complete control.”
Dee: “Letting go means to simply loosen your grip on the reigns, or to drop them completely. But, it can also be letting go of what you have perceived for all your life, and just existing within yourself.”
See the common theme here?
Letting go means to accept that you don’t have as much control as you think you have, or that you simply want to have. However, there can be two sides to this: humanizing your reality and/or letting go your surroundings during shifting attempts.
How to Humanize your reality
Despite popular belief, humanizing your DR can be difficult. Not only because this is practically the place of your desires, but because you might not know what aspects to exactly humanize—especially if you haven’t shifted there yet.
“Well then, how do I humanize it?”
By picking apart the big or small things about your reality that you can relate back to normalcy…in some capacity. Kayleen uses the example of her Fame DR where she’s a nightly burlesque dancer and musical choreographer. In result of her choreographing a musical dance number that went insanely viral and getting recognized for it, she realized the true impact of theatre in society and the special feeling of recognition. Finding things that help you understand the bigger picture, but also imagining your emotions to acts big or small will help you not only attach yourself to your reality—but to embrace the challenges and successes that you will face.
TJ provides another example which is to let go of your expectations and trying to control every tiny aspect of your reality. In their example explain that if you script your S/O will bring you flowers every day, let go of the expectations behind how, when, where, and what kind of flowers your S/O will bring. Setting expectations for yourself, especially in shifting, will make things harder for you because in short: You are not going to know everything. Expecting outcomes will only heighten the chances of you being disappointed if they don’t happen the way you want. Keeping the element of the unknown will set realistic standards for you reality.
Dee’s example is more on finding the things about your reality that will probably annoy you, or feel routine in some way. For example, in their Marvel DR they would have to go to team meetings once in a while even for the smallest of conversations. Does that mean she will enjoy getting out of her comfortable bed at hours she can’t control, or going to sleep later because of it? No. Will she still do it? Yes. Finding the things that you know you’ll dislike will help you because then you’ll stop putting your reality of a golden pedestal. The same way you are annoyed by or dislike things in this reality, there will be new things in other realities that will bother you.
How to Truly Let Go
While to some, the process of letting go can appear difficult to do, it’s important to note that it isn’t undoable. When it comes to doing an actual shifting attempt, letting go is becoming aware of your simple existence and not focusing on the 3D of the reality that surrounds you. In other words, you’re not focused on how your senses are tuned into your current reality when you’re trying to become aware of somewhere else. For some, this is a difficult process with a combination of many things, commonly with OCD, ADHD, or Autism. However, like I stated before—this isn’t to say that this process is impossible.
There are many practices to help you detach from this reality and attach yourself to your DR. These are practices mostly with reaching the void state or the hypnogogic state which allows you to detach from your body and senses and simply exist. Below are some links that can guide you to these states, and explaining in full detail:
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Conclusion
To conclude this newsletter, we want to re-iterate that letting go simply doesn’t restrict to meaning just one thing. There are multiple ways and definitions of “letting go” when it comes to shifting. While this may not be the exact key to shifting (as there truly isn’t a key to the practice), becoming content that you are shifting to the unknown will do great help to your journey and much more.
